Thursday, February 2, 2012

Yet Another Young Life Lost to Bullycide: Eira Maghuyop, 14, Rest In Peace

I'm reaching the point where I don't know what else to say.  The redundant pace of this alarming epidemic is leaving me heart-wrenched and at a loss for words.  Tuesday, January 31, 2012, 14-year-old Eira Maghuyop added her name to the growing list of bullycides.  She was a freshman at Ursuline High School in New Rochelle, NY.  A freshman.  I look back through my high school yearbook and see just how young we really are when we're freshmen.  Ursuline High School is mourning one of theirs today.

According to the news reports, she was a victim of cyberbullying.  The New Rochelle police have her computer to investigate.  It is my sincerest hope that they're able to pinpoint who was doing the bullying and dole out punishment to the fullest extent of the law.  The message still isn't being heard:  WE WILL NO LONGER TOLERATE BULLYING OF ANY SORT!!  It is also my hope that the already-swelling number of ordinary, and not-so-ordinary citizens continue to scream that message to the top of their lungs until we can finally close this deplorable chapter of our existence.  

Eira's friends immediately set up an anti-bullying facebook page in her honor.  It has swelled to over 10,000 members at last glance.  That needs to increase tenfold.  There is also several YouTube videos already posted in her memory.  I'm really tired shedding tears as I watch these wonderful young people's images who lost their lives senselessly.  We need to work even harder.

By all accounts, Eira was a sweet, bubbly young girl, full of laughter and promise.  And, it's evident that she was loved dearly by those close to her.  One of her closest friends wrote this on her tumblr blog:

This  is Eira Maghuyop.
She was 14.  We didn’t talk all the time, but we talked occasionally.  Every time we talked, she managed to make me smile or laugh, and we both loved Vampire Diaries and The Secret Circle.  This summer, we were going to meet uup in N.Y.C. and she promised to give me a tour.  She was the sweetest and bubbliest person alive.  That’s why it was all a shock last night to learn that this beautiful girl took her own life.  When I heard the news, I was so…shocked.  I had no idea she was depressed, or thinking of suicide.  It was so sad.  Ii cried for about 2 hours upon learning she had died.  She killed herself due to the fact that she goy bullies.  Really?  What the actually f**k.  F**k you b*tches that bullied this sweet girl until she couldn’t take it anymore.  I miss her, I miss Eira.  She was only 14.  That’s way too young.  She had her whole life ahead of her.  We would always joke about who was older, and who was more mature since her birthday was 6 days ahead of mine.  She told me I was going to make it big one day.  I took those words to heart, babygirl. :’)
R.I.P. Eira Maghuyop
F**k I hate this world…Why does this happen to such good people.  You see what you guys done.  yeah.  f**ked up
What's needed now, right now!, is for more and more people to continue to band together and take action, whatever it takes!, to make absolutely sure that we bring this scourge of our society to a screeching halt.  We need to FORCE the politicians to listen and take answers.  We need to compel teachers and school administrators to be much more PROactive, and diligent, in preventing bullying.  And, particularly in the case of bullycides, we need to MAKE SURE that those who are guilty of the bullying are made to understand that what they did was just as bad as pointing a gun at their victim and pulling the trigger.  The end result is the same.

Eira had a beautiful family.  Now, they're enduring the deepest level of sorrow imaginable.  It shouldn't be that way.  Rest in peace, Eira Fatima Maghuyop.  I know you will be missed.


  1. I suggest you read this page:

    We all want to help - but there are ways to talk about suicide that can either increase the risk, or decrease the risk.

    1. Thank you very much for that very valuable information. I will put it to use.

  2. We didn't have cyberbullying when I was growing up. But live bullying was bad enough. From elementary school on I was a target, and I never understood, there was always a bewildered little girl inside me that didn't understand why people were so mean. I survived but I am burdened with depression and insecurity. At the same time, I learned something about compassion and tolerance. The lesson was too expensive. The adults turned a blind eye, and still do. THAT IS WRONG. Bullying should NOT be tolerated. Children need to be taught that each person is a valuable individual who deserves kindness and respect, and that if you do not respect others, there will be consequences.

  3. While i was in high school we lost a good handful of students to bullying. At least 3 were GLBT students.I, personally had thought about suicide a few times due to the amount of bullying, but reconcidred when reason over took. Why would i let those people win so easily? Why should I be punished along with my family for others people wrong doing? I would rather live happy and smile as much as I could just so it would piss them off. Nothing annoys bullies more than them seeing you happy and smiling. (Also, if you smile long enough and hard enough while looking at them in the eye and ask them politely for them to call you names they tend to think you are crazy and avoid you cuz you are creepy...That's how I got rid of 3 of my bullies and 2 of my ex-girlfriends bullies)

  4. Hey, I just came across this post by accident. I'm a student at the Ursuline School, and I just wanted to inform you that the news reports were incorrect, and that bullying was not the primary reason that Eira took her life. I do agree that it is a serious issue, and I don't doubt that it was a contributing factor to her sadness. Just wanted to put this out there.

  5. Ron, Whilst I understand where you are coming from on all this, I feel you should be focusing only on gay related issues of this nature rather than trying to embrace every bullycide that happens.

    Straight kids don't have the religious/psychological aspects to put up with for a start. You are not called to repentance or called an abomination and told you are damned to hell for having ginger hair for example.

    So whilst the shit these other kids go through is bad, the shit gay kids go through is even worse. Straights have plenty of support systems out there. Including the churches. Gay kids don't aside from their fellow queers.

    We need to look after our own first.