The first posting I read about Blake's demise specified that he had been bullied for being a male cheerleader. In today's news article, the Broward County sheriff's office stated that their investigation has turned up no evidence of bullying. Then again, we've heard that before and in cases where bullying was very definitely the cause. However, Blake's sister also said:
... that her brother was not bullied or gay, and that she hopes he won't be remembered as a victim.By all accounts, Blake was a very happy, well-loved student, friend, and family member. Something, however, had to drive him to the point of no return. Family and friends will now be left to wonder what, possibly for the rest of their lives.
Shawn Cerra, the principle at Blake's high school, had this observation:
"None of us had any indication that he was going through anything or having a difficult time," Cerra said, describing McCullers as friendly, confident and an unlikely target for bullies."Friendly". "Confident". "An unlikely target for bullies". Still, something pushed Blake over the edge.
Two issues come immediately to mind:
- The immediate assumption that every teen who commits suicide is gay and/or bullied is a very pervasive problem. I did a blog post a couple months ago about a suicide that never even happened, yet immediately Twitter was riddled with people sounding off about the bullying of another LGBT teen. Bullying is a very serious issue, to be sure, and it's an issue that warrants a lot more attention than it's getting. However, it's important to make sure that the cause was, in fact, bullying before we start sounding off. I've been guilty of it, myself, so I understand fully the temptation to go there. We just can't.
- The fact that this vibrant, confident young man felt compelled to end his life, a life that according to all accounts from those close to him, and no one has any idea of why poses a whole different issue. Getting young people to open up and talk, hopefully to their parents but, if not, a trusted adult (maybe an older sibling) is so vital. Perhaps, life saving.