tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post8133178902392790805..comments2023-03-30T08:59:36.742-04:00Comments on Enough is Enough: Lane Laymon, 14, Death by Suicideron kemphttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08668762973651593788noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-8510696671422813852017-02-08T12:17:34.632-05:002017-02-08T12:17:34.632-05:00He was a cousin and a friend. And i went to school...He was a cousin and a friend. And i went to school with him. he told me about his plans and i didn't believe him. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-4607619871599468362013-10-09T23:50:44.024-04:002013-10-09T23:50:44.024-04:00Dustin "lane" Layamon was my best friend...Dustin "lane" Layamon was my best friend and you're absolutely correct about it being in homes as well as school. Lane never had it easy and I wish I was there for him that day but the high school and middle school is separated. Lane was a nice young man and may he rest in peace :*(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-86025633845241280782012-06-24T13:52:28.716-04:002012-06-24T13:52:28.716-04:00i don't know what happened, how they feel, eve...i don't know what happened, how they feel, even I don't know what to do? Just want say, STOP I can't hear any more, I can't see innocence death. It's totally intolerable.new york psychologistshttp://www.psychny.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-24700067696219845582012-06-14T22:38:03.362-04:002012-06-14T22:38:03.362-04:00Wow. That's heartbreaking. I'm sure that...Wow. That's heartbreaking. I'm sure that this is hard on you, as well. I hope you're doing well.ron kemphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08668762973651593788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-69986000506067275882012-06-13T15:12:30.416-04:002012-06-13T15:12:30.416-04:00Im an old friend of Lane's he wouldnt just up ...Im an old friend of Lane's he wouldnt just up and do this. Its somthing more I know that much. I remember before I had to move away we hung out almost every weekend Lane his brother my brother and me. To say I couldnt have done anything is wrong...me and Lane were soooo close. I remember my brother went over to his house after i moved. My brother said "Lane's crazy as soon as I show up he asks about you. He wants to know when you're coming back. He says he needs you. Hi misses you...a lot. You can see it in his eyes sis you really can." That was the time I thought i was coming back to him. A time i was gonna tell him what he meant to me. He and I had a thing since we were like three. Over time it grew...how big it grew i would say damn near close to love. Say what you will but Lane isnt dead to me he lives in me. But i miss him like hell...then again who dosent?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-87278486234395285132012-05-25T14:50:21.074-04:002012-05-25T14:50:21.074-04:00I knew Lane.... I went to school and church with h...I knew Lane.... I went to school and church with him.... Im his older brothers friend..... I was there the day it happened and I went to his funeral even.... But I can tell you this... It isnt JUST bullying, and, the bullying here in Dover isnt as bad as people have been saying.... I mean... I get bullied but whenever it happens I tell the Counsiler and it STOPS.... So :/ I dont know what else to say. Except, I miss you Lane... Everybody does....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-83266719032445189872012-04-19T18:58:06.984-04:002012-04-19T18:58:06.984-04:00People who try to use the bible as a permition sli...People who try to use the bible as a permition slip to bully make me sick! What ever happend to love thy neighbor? Or let he who is without sin cast the first stone? STOP trying to distort the bible to your twisted way of seeing things. It is up to god to pass his judgment not people! People want to call themselfs good christans for bulling are some of the most distorted people alive and they give new meaning to the term bigot. I was bullied in school and one of my children is now a victom of bulling and I vow to spend my dying breath fighting this problem.Praying4changenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-39577596171742970112012-04-17T21:08:11.823-04:002012-04-17T21:08:11.823-04:00We need to speak up and do something about this th...We need to speak up and do something about this this is getting out of controlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-15529401988543575232012-04-17T19:20:01.900-04:002012-04-17T19:20:01.900-04:00Every time I read about another teen suicide I cry...Every time I read about another teen suicide I cry. I remember my brothers. I was seven and I watched my 17 year old brother die in front of me. His name was Kyle and he was bullied for being bisexual. My other brother was bullied for being gay and he hang him self at the age of 11. His name was Andy and I was 13 when he died. This Bullying needs at stop.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12755404471890974292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-53907080420523676102012-04-17T15:34:02.486-04:002012-04-17T15:34:02.486-04:00I can say, as a person who was bullied daily from ...I can say, as a person who was bullied daily from the time I was 12 until the day I graduated high school that I honestly do not believe that religion has anything to do with why kids bully one another. In my experience, and I must add that I live in the "bible belt", it was my religious peers that was always the nicest to everyone, I was not bullied for being gay, as I am not gay, but I had a gay friend that was never bullied by the religious crowd, it was always someone else. I think the attention needs to be taken away from the fact that these poor children are gay and instead needs to be turned back to the fact that there are many many many cruel people in the world that will take any small difference in a person and use that to make their life hell. I was a nerd in school and I was overweight to boot, I was teased, taunted, fliers were hung up at my school calling me a lesbian,I was spat on, pushed into lockers, and once I was tripped on my way up an aisle in class and nearly broke my arm. I constantly thought about committing suicide and I did try once but did not succeed and during the summers I would constantly diet trying to lose weight not knowing that I was overweight because I had a thyroid disorder which ,left untreated, made loosing weight impossible. I finally finished school and got away from the bullies but I can honestly say that it did leave permanent scars that I don't know if I will ever get over. It is my personal opinion that if it can be proven that a child commits suicide due to being bullied by other children then the children need to be held accountable by law. Bullying is in my opinion a hate crime and the people committing the crime need to be held accountable.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-541501523125901782012-04-17T15:11:47.962-04:002012-04-17T15:11:47.962-04:00I am a parent, and yes my daughter is lesbian. But...I am a parent, and yes my daughter is lesbian. But guess what? I accept her as a person! She is who she is and she and her partner are the only ones who need to be concerned! She is still loved by her family and has many friends. And I feel that people need to step back from what society accepts as the norm and ask ourselves what do we want and what matters to us FIRST!!!Michelle Wadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08927014649249756603noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-17844562263239895282012-04-17T14:34:22.052-04:002012-04-17T14:34:22.052-04:00I agree. I know plenty of loving Christians out th...I agree. I know plenty of loving Christians out there. The Belief isnt the issue, the way they treat others because of it is.Sam Burgetthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03644426682681713879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-79931062914621420802012-04-17T14:26:36.916-04:002012-04-17T14:26:36.916-04:00Eloquently said, and elegiacally sad.Eloquently said, and elegiacally sad.Richardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15481936090455797869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-10530405337356395822012-04-17T14:07:34.387-04:002012-04-17T14:07:34.387-04:00This absolutely makes me ILL !! I hav a teen frien...This absolutely makes me ILL !! I hav a teen friend that I am pretty sure is gay but I do not and will never push the issue. He is like a brother I hav never had and he knows I am here for him, along w his parents! He has alot of great friends his age that I am close to as well so I do not think he will go this far, but..... WOW! Idiots just can't accept a person for being who they are :~{shane lukehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00431729556394812709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-81903150986505019422012-04-17T13:57:04.123-04:002012-04-17T13:57:04.123-04:00Once again, I must express my dismay at hearing ab...Once again, I must express my dismay at hearing about further lives lost due to outdated, bigoted views.<br />Let us not lose our focus here though - how many children have to DIE before the authorities will start imposing the severest penalties (ie: manslaughter) if someone is bullied to death? Children are DYING... And every country on this planet needs to get a clue and change everything!<br />We will never be an evolved, enlightened species until we treat each other with respect and equality. Until children can grow up happy and safe.<br />I do agree it starts at home.<br />Usually with abusive parents, who beat on their own kids... These kids grow up thinking bullying and violence are acceptable. Their own need to feel powerful drives them to victimize the vulnerable.Benjaminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16884378796304798041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-64082484118627579702012-04-17T13:56:01.949-04:002012-04-17T13:56:01.949-04:00This is so tragic---my heart is breaking for this ...This is so tragic---my heart is breaking for this young man and all who have experienced blind hatred and prejudice. May he walk in the heart of the Divine.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-5043145348038112112012-04-17T13:52:09.249-04:002012-04-17T13:52:09.249-04:00Here’s a painful question that thousands of North ...Here’s a painful question that thousands of North American families ask each year: What’s the best way to mourn someone who’s committed suicide? According to a new report we found on CNN, our natural urge to mourn in public – with a large funeral service - may actually be the wrong thing to do. That’s the word from Madelyn Gould, a professor of psychiatry at Columbia University. She says recent studies have shown that the publicity of suicide, through candlelight vigils and large community gatherings, may result in more suicidal behavior. That’s because suicide has a tendency to be “contagious.” <br /><br />The thinking here is that if a person’s already having suicidal thoughts, and they see that someone else is getting attention for taking their own life, then that could be the trigger that inspires more suicides. Experts say adolescents and students are the most vulnerable to suicide contagion, because they tend to be more impressionable and impulsive. In fact, that may explain the so-called “suicide clusters” which happen on college campuses every few years. Just this year, there have been at least six suicides at Cornell University in New York. Psychologists believe the national publicity generated by each death may have inspired other students at the school to take their own life. That’s why psychologists are now recommending a more “muted” response to suicide. They say instead of having a large public memorial, it might be worth trying to develop a suicide prevention activity to honor that person. As an example, they point to the most recent death at Cornell. Instead of holding a large memorial, school officials there organized a student-only mental health awareness event, called “Lift Your Spirits.” <br /><br />Experts say unless someone comes along and shows students that there are other options, young adults may dwell on the idea that suicide is a way to finally get attention – even posthumously. If you want to go further, contact the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention. Their website is AFSP.org.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-1454156022381787272012-04-17T13:44:40.872-04:002012-04-17T13:44:40.872-04:00I don't think the problem is that kids are tau...I don't think the problem is that kids are taught that being gay is against the Bible. I think the problem is that they're taught that it's OK to treat people who engage in "sins" like crap. There is a difference. Forcing people to modify their beliefs is bullying too. Requiring them to modify their actions is not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5071475947902999546.post-65641760506703948442012-04-17T13:26:08.005-04:002012-04-17T13:26:08.005-04:00I agree that parents need to teach their children ...I agree that parents need to teach their children not to bully. But before they can do that, they have to learn what bullying really is. I've heard adults saying things about other adults that, if it were a kid saying it about another kid would be considered bullying. Why is it not considered bullying when my neighbor says rude things about another neighbor? Just because said neighbor is only "expressing his opinion"? I was taught that if your opinion isn't positive, keep it to yourself. But more and more I see people in this country deliberately expressing their hatred, or least their negative opinions about others. Why? Why is it necessary to make sure the whole world knows you don't like this person or that person and why you don't like them? I may not care for the way my neighbor parks his car, but as long as it doesn't interfere with MY life, he's free to park however he wishes. I may not like the way a certain girl dresses, but as long as she's not asking me to dress in the same way, what difference does her choice of clothing make in my life? None at all! So leave her alone.<br /><br />(sorry if my thinking seems a bit muddles this morning. Learning of another suicide does that to me.)Chris McQhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05127146738698999645noreply@blogger.com